I have to admit, I really have not given resolutions much thought for the upcoming year. Frankly, they are not very high on my priority list. I know this sounds odd coming from someone who normally loves anything fashion and beauty related, but 2014 just didn’t end well for me. Come to think of it, 2013 wasn’t so great either. I’m not one to bemoan and belabor what life eventually doles out, but the last two years were a shit storm. Around Thanksgiving 2013, my younger and only brother was diagnosed with brain cancer (he is thankfully doing well now, but it was a harrowing few months) and just days before this past Thanksgiving my beloved father passed away rather unexpectedly. I had always been a Daddy’s little girl, so his death has been harder on me than I ever thought possible. I could not write for Second City Style and even thinking about fashion and beauty seemed – in a word – dumb. I just focused on my family and tried to get through the holidays without having a nervous breakdown.
However, it has been six weeks (to the day) that my father passed away, and it’s time for me to pick myself up by the Prada bootstraps and get back to “work.” So what are my resolutions? I have none. Frankly, I genrally don’t since I find resolutions pointless and usually broken. I do, though, have some goals for the new year.
1. To find inner peace and breathe. I mean really breathe. I catch myself taking short, almost gasping breathes these days and I know I need to take a few moments periodically during the day to breathe deeply and exhale out any bad or critical thoughts.
2. To be a kinder, happier person. I was able to spend time with my father three weeks before he passed during a rather last-minute visit home to take him to an important doctor’s appointment. My father had physically diminished over the last 10 years of his life and even though he could hardly walk anymore he said “every morning I wake up with a smile on my face, looking forward to the day ahead. I love being alive.” Those words have had a profound effect on me since he died. In his memory, I want to be more like him. He had a great attitude and kept his sense of humor no matter what was thrown his way.
3. To lose the 10 lbs. I packed back on. About six months after I had my second (and last) child, I went on a drastic diet to loose the baby weight. I also took Core Fusion classes at exhale at least 5 times a week. By the next summer I was in the best shape I had been in since my 20’s! I was very happy with my accomplishments and loved getting dressed every day. I realized I have not been as excited to get dressed these days. Within the past year I have sabotaged my hard work by regaining 10 pounds of my lost weight, and only have myself to blame. I can kid myself, but the truth is, I love my wine, good food (I’m a foodie by trade) and I have a sweet tooth after 8pm. No more. I am now documenting every morsel of food that passes my lips so I have no excuses. I’m just happier when I am thinner…where I am meant to be.
4. Drink more water. I know I don’t drink enough water and also know it will help me with my third goal of losing weight. Truth is, I just don’t have the time to go to the bathroom constantly. It annoys me. I’m just going to have to get over that. Water is good. Peeing is good. Being a camel is bad.
5. No more crappy clothes. I am going to try staying away from H&M and Zara. My closet is filled with a mix of high-end and crap. I just realized my high-end clothes are older and my newer clothes are mostly of inferior quality. Since I have lost my desire to shop, I will only save my bucks for worthy investment pieces.
6. Stop buying shoes! Working with Carol has rubbed off on me. Instead of buying handbags like I usually do, I have been buying a ton of shoes and honestly… find myself grabbing the same 3 pairs repeatedly. Therefore many were a waste of my fixation and money. Proof is the pair of black “pilgrim” shoes I just had to have that are still in the box! They make my feet look like boats and it’s too late to take them back. Wasted money.
So there you have it. Happy New Year and I’m praying for a great and uneventful 2015.
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